The holiday season can be a difficult time for those grieving the loss of a loved one. Holiday traditions may remind of happier times, and feelings of sadness and loneliness may become overwhelming.
Understanding grief
Grief is a personal experience and can affect everyone differently. It is important to respect how others grieve.
If you are grieving for a loved one, the holiday season may bring back memories of past celebrations. You may feel a range of emotions such as sadness, anger, relief, guilt or anxiety. Try to not pretend that everything is okay.
Grief can also show in physical ways. You may experience exhaustion, fatigue, headaches, nausea, unexplained aches and pains, changes to appetite, and a tight feeling in the chest and stomach.
A few tips to help you cope with grief during the holiday season
- Acknowledge your feelings: It's okay to feel sad or overwhelmed. Allow yourself time to process your emotions and take care of yourself.
- Be patient with grief: You may feel that after a certain time you should be "moving on", but your adjustment to the loss is likely to be gradual and may take longer than you or others expect.
- Try to make movement a part of your routine: Physical activity can help with feelings of anger, stress, anxiety and depression. Although the holiday season is busy, try to do some exercise as part of your daily routine.
- Set boundaries: Decide which traditions you want to maintain and which you're ready to change or skip this year.
- Have an alternative plan: You may not be ready for a big holiday celebration, so having an alternative option that reduces stress for you may be helpful.
- Lean on support: Reach out to family, friends, or support groups to share your feelings and find comfort.
- Honor your loved one: Light a candle, share memories, or create a new tradition to remember them.
Supporting others who are grieving
If someone you know is dealing with loss over the holiday season it can be helpful to offer a listening ear, be patient and respectful if they are not ready for celebrations or socialisation.
Seeking help
If you're struggling during the holiday season consider speaking with your GP, or a counsellor. There are free online telephone support services you can call, such as Griefline on 1300 845 745, which provides support for anyone who is grieving. You can also call our 13 11 20 Cancer Information and Support Line if you would like to speak with one of our nurses (see our 13 11 20 Christmas opening hours here).
